When you are in a healthy relationship, you are going to feel confident and safe. Here is a quick guide to help you recognize and keep good company.

Healthy – you know you are in a healthy relationship when you...

Have fun together more times than not.	Enjoy spending time apart, with your own friends and with each other’s friends.
Feel safe with each other and proud to be together.	Have close friends & family who are happy about your relationship.
Trust each other and are faithful to each other.	Support each other's goals in life.
Never feel like you're being pressured.	Have equal decision-making power about what you do in your relationship.
Respect each other's opinions, even when they are different.	Solve conflicts without putting each other down.
Both apologize when wrong.

Not So Healthy – you know your relationship is unhealthy when one of you...

Gets extremely jealous or accuses the other of cheating.	Puts the other down by name calling, cursing or insults.
Often criticizes the other’s friends or family.	Keeps the other from having a job or furthering his/her education.
Acts controlling or possessive.	Has ever threatened to hurt the other or commit suicide if the other leaves.
Depends completely on the other.	Has ever grabbed, pushed, hit, or physically hurt the other.
Forces the other to have unwanted sex.	Makes all the decisions.

Leaving a bad relationship  
Sometimes a person must decide to leave a bad relationship. Making this decision may not be easy, but friends, family and counselors can help you.

1. Accept the fact that the relationship is abusive.
2. Seriously think about why, when and how you want to end it.
3. Prepare your environment, keeping in mind your safety, your emotional and legal support and your economic situation.
4. Take action.

To get help, you may contact us.
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