Coping with Violence
The weeks and months after an act of violence can be very hard. An individual may experience some or all of the following:
- Focus on the violent act; playing it over and over again in your mind
- Trying to make sense of a senseless act
- Sleepless nights and nightmares
- Self-blame; wondering what you did wrong to have this awful thing happen to you
- Feeling of fright and panic that appear out of nowhere and can't be ignored
- Checking your surroundings for fear that something bad could happen at any time
- A sense of total betrayal
- Wanting to tell someone what happened to you, but afraid of what people might say or think
- Sadness that overshadows everything
These are very normal feelings and reactions to abuse and violence. There is help and hope for recovery.
Can I Ever Recover?
Recover is possible. Here are some things you can do:
- Reach out to people who can help you.
- Find someone to talk to who is supportive and will respect your privacy.
- Develop a safety plan. The purpose of a safety plan is to help you protect yourself in stressful or violent situations. A safety plan is a personalized and practical plan regarding your physical and emotional safety. There are many types of safety plans. It is important to outline and consider important factors that are unique to your situation. Some things to consider are: any contact you may have with the person who has abused you, important numbers such as crisis line numbers, technology and social media safety, safety of children or pets, information regarding local shelters, and reaching out to supportive people.
- Make your own decisions. A crisis does not destroy your ability or limit your right to make decisions.
- Nurture yourself – you deserve it. Pain can heal through comforting.
- Know that the pain you feel will not last forever.
- Develop your own thoughts and spirituality. Healthy, happy people have a strong sense of your own values and determination.
- Get professional help. You don't have to be alone. Please seek help.
Victim Intervention Program/Rape Crisis Center
214-590-2926
Crisis line: 214-590-0430
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The services of licensed counselors and experienced staff are free to Dallas County residents.